Teresia

On Friday, 05 December 2008, I (Gudrun Dürr) accompanied the sick Mwanasha to our general practitioner Dr. Mashanga. In the clinic I received a phone call from the Youth Welfare Office with the request if we could accommodate additional children.

History

On Friday, 05 December 2008, I (Gudrun Dürr) accompanied the sick Mwanasha to our general practitioner Dr. Mashanga. In the clinic I received a phone call from the Youth Welfare Office with the request if we could accommodate additional children. They approached us, since recently two difficult cases were assigned to another home in Ukunda. Knowing that until some of the children have moved to Nice View II - after the admission of 10 new children in 2008 - we are bursting at the seams. However, we are flexible, and it was clear that we are going to accommodate Antony and Teresia. I called my co-worker Mshila, who was in Ukunda at that time, and he drove to the police station where the children were. Mshila made inquires and informed me via the phone. A social worker of the church had received an anonymous phone call. According to the caller, Antony and Teresia were left behind with an old woman that is no relative and not capable to take care of the children. The police had picked the children up and had informed the Youth Welfare Office. The mother who had abandoned the children was not known at that time. I instructed Mshila to bring the two to Nice View, and after having taken care of all formalities the children were with us still that day. Although we were expecting twins, we could hardly believe that we have twins in front of us. Teresia is significantly stronger than her brother, can walk and looks despite malnutrition like a 2 years old child. Antony is substantially slighter and has the build of an 8 months old child; he can neither stand nor walk. Furthermore, he does not make any attempts to crawl or to move in any other way. His behaviour is reverse. Antony is considerably more communicative than his sister, laughs, makes sounds and imitates everything you show him. Teresia does none of this. She looks rather sceptical and prefers to keep a straight face. Even though we do not exactly know how the living circumstances at the house of the mother were, it is clear that the children were heavily neglected and in their mother's way. In the following days the police searched for the mother and was successful. She is divorced and makes her living as a prostitute. The woman got arrested and was remanded in custody. On Monday, 8th of December, we visited the mother in prison. Her narratives concerning the abandonment of their children were implausible, and she must count on a charge and a prison term. She gave us the phone number of her divorced husband, who had seen the children after the divorce sporadically only. He explained Antony's condition with various diseases the boy has had. The father is currently unemployed, and also his living and family conditions do not allow him to take care of Antony and Teresia. He asked us for visiting the children from time to time. And already the next day he came to Nice View and has spent one hour with his children in the new environment. We are confident that Antony and Teresia will settle fast in Nice View and that they will overcome their physical and behaviour shortcomings soon - as all the other children.

Career

June 2009: Teresia has developed very well within the last 6 months. She is now an open, communicative and very affectionate child. Keep it up! Her father, who did not take care of her and her brother when they needed him, visits them now regularly.

November 2010: Teresia goes to kindergarten now. She is somewhat wild, but always wants to hear that she is a good girl before going to bed. And with few exceptions she is one!

April 2012: Teresia attends meanwhile the Reception Class. Unfortunately, she is somewhat inattentive and due to this just an average performer. She loves to sing and dance, is lively, and compared to her twin brother her physical development is not delayed. There seems to be a specific band between the twins. If for example Antony cries, Teresia cries as well, and vice versa.

November 2013: Teresia is socially competent and always friendly. She is a nice, normal and affectionate girl and now one of our first formers.

January 2016: Teresia is now in class 3 with Caroline. Usually she needs somewhat more time to understand and learn and is as a consequence  not good in school. She is a petite, rather quiet, helpful and lovely girl who is very popular.

November 2019: Teresia, now in class 5, is doing quite well. Most of the time, she is quiet and doesn't attract attention, but she also has the guts to sing some solo parts in the Nice View band. Now and again, she and her twin brother Antony spend a few days with their aunt and uncle who live in Germany and come for regular visits.